I have been Coaching with Chris for two years now. So many things I can share about the benefits that this person has had on my life in terms of my marriage, my job as a Mom, and my own individual person. I think that his focus on ME is what makes me a better partner, a better Mom, a better friend, and a happier person.
This past weekend my sibling came to Northern Nevada for my son’s 12th birthday party. My sibling came into my home last night and the plan was to watch a film that was an Oscar nominee. My sibling had spent all day with our parents – who produce their own negative energy. He came in the house with a very negative energy and began to influence my feelings. Manifesting in anxiety for me. I was able to notice this in my body and to recognize that my best solution was to say, “I am feeling some negative energy here. I am not saying that you are doing anything wrong. But I think I need to go upstairs and take a break. Then I will come back down and we can resume our time together.” My sibling did not like this and noticed that I had teared up. They then said I was acting like a baby. I continued on my mission to retreat for a respite. At this moment it became verbally abusive. My sibling said I was over-reacting. Then they began to make baby sounds to shame me for crying. I stopped breathing at a certain point. I was being gaslit. I then said, “get out of my house.” They left and I immediately retreated to my bathroom. My coaching kicked in. I sat in my grief. The grief that the relationship wouldn’t be what I wanted it to be. But, eventually, in the knowledge, that for once in my beautiful life I had set a boundary. When I was 13 years old I had taken a bottle of pills because this same sibling fat shamed me.
Sitting in the bathroom and sitting in my bad feelings. That is part one. Part two is 15 minutes later. Talking to my husband about what happened. He says, “You used to do that to me when I made you feel insecure.” WHAT???? He is absolutely right. My sibling and I are cut from the same cloth. I didn’t bite back. I heard him. And he was right. It made me sad that I had spent so many years treating my husband like that.
My love coaching has saved and reinvigorated my relationship with my soul mate. My wonderful husband. It has made me a better mother. A better friend. A better educator. And, in terms of the incident I laid out above, I am able to reframe what happened with my sibling and have love and empathy for the pain they must be in.
Christopher’s coaching has changed my life. In all facets. I continue to receive coaching. And I continue to learn and be nurtured by it. Please don’t sit in your pain anymore. You may not even realize what you are going through. We are human. We are damaged. We all need some Love Coaching. xo